“Happy people plan actions, they don’t plan results.”
“As you try to explain why you are feeling negative emotion, you are adding power to it. Release the negative emotion, the negative feeling, and the negative attraction – by taking your attention from it.”
I think I finally figured out what I’ve done…and this is embarrassing…
I’ve managed to twist “I have to be skinny to be happy” into “I have to get happy to get skinny.”
I could explain myself more, but I’m tired of trying to defend myself, and explaining why this and that happened, or what went wrong.
I know what happened, and I know what I need to do to fix it.
Quit making food the problem. If I don’t want dieting to be my life anymore, than that means not letting not dieting become my life either. Which I totally have let happen..
So this is me, trying to figure out a better way to do things. Again.
Between the idea’s I’ve adopted and tweaked from Gretchen Rubin and all the wise words from Brené Brown that I’ve finally let soak in, I’m starting over. Again.
I’m going to dedicate at least the rest of this year to tackling a handful of different resolutions and forming new habits. Less explaining and defending myself, and more finding and loving myself. More working on restoring my old ways instead of completely removing them. Because wasn’t that supposed to be my plan all along?
Kind of like Gretchen’s project, each month will have a different “theme” Of course I already have them laid out, but to keep it fun for the few people that read this (thanks Mom) I’m going to spill them out as I go.
So….drum roll please……May’s Theme is
Building our Love Nest.
With the remodeling of the house and all the changes that are coming with the move, May seemed like the perfect month to start new home habits. It’s also our anniversary month, and even though Joe and I have an awesome marriage, I know there are things I could work on.
Aside from the basic goals of getting fully moved in, GETTING ORGANIZED, and decorated (which lets not kid ourselves..is going to take much longer than 30 days…) the more specific goals I want to nail down are
* Keep work talk at the office and really separate Work Joe from Husband Joe.
* Wake up early and take my time.
Stretch, eat breakfast together at home instead of at work, fix my hair!
*Take more pictures of us together and of the move in process/remodel.
*Share the love and excitement of our new home with my friends and family- don’t get stuck in the “they’ll just shit on everything I want to do!” or the “WTH?! Don’t you see I’m too busy to play?!” attitudes that I normally get in when stressed or anxious.
In order to have a loving home, I have to let love in.
I also want to make it a point to take more pictures of the random little things that make me happy. This is something that I always want and try to do, but never gets done.
But! I tried! And here are the ones I’ve collected this week…
1- A super cute cheeseburger cake… going to try to remember this one for when we have Burger’s late B-day/ House Warming Party. 2- Burger’s dazed and confused face when I found her taking a nap in the room we just painted…And I wonder why she’s such a spazz…
3- THE MOST AMAZING SIGN EVER!!!!!
4- Finally getting to wear a dress and my mom coming by for a surprise visit right after I took this selfie :]
I plan on posting about this “project” and everything else as close to daily as I can handle…If this gets old for everybody else who sees me posting about it on Facebook, tough.
This Happiness Fairy isn’t down with being quiet.
If you want to start a Happiness Project of your own, which you should! Visit Gretchen’s site for more information. Also for those of you who live in my hometown, our library has a paperback copy and the CD of Happier at Home for you to check out. I’m an audio fan because I’ve learned its not safe to read while driving 😉 But go with what you feel.
The next step is to write out my “Personal Commandments”, which I’m just about done with and will hopefully share by the end of the weekend.
Until then, I’m going to go work on painting kitchen cabinets and trying not to hurl when we get into this old bathrooms plumbing….Yum.